You know, GOD has a way of making us take stock of our lives – even our time and how we are spending it. Just today, I thought to myself, “Just as soon as Mar gets back from her vacation, I need to take a little hiatus myself.” Well, just as soon as that thought entered my mind, it left…quickly.
How will the club manage without me? How will ALL the million and one things that I do every day, get done? Who’s going to make those hard and very important decisions that I have to make on a daily basis? If not me, who?
Then, I opened my phone (to my Twitter account) and there was this article that was meant just for me to see.
Please, read on…
‘IT’S LONELY AT THE TOP – OR, IT SHOULD BE’
Leaders need time for reflection and hard analytical work, just like everyone else.
Solitude has been instrumental to the effectiveness of leaders throughout history, but now, they (as with everyone else) are losing it with hardly any awareness of the fact. Before the Information Age – which one could call the Input Age – leaders naturally found solitude anytime they were physically alone, or walking from one place to another, or standing in a line.
Like a great wave that saturates everything in its path, hand-held devices deliver immeasurable quantities of information and entertainment, that now have virtually all of us instead staring down at our phones. Society did not make a considered choice to surrender the bulk of its time for reflection in favor of time spent reading tweets or texts.
Yet, with an awareness of what we have lost, each of us can choose to reclaim it. And leaders in particular – whose actions by definition affect not only themselves – have more than a choice. They have an obligation. A leader has a responsibility to seek out periods of solitude.
The assumption, unless the leader says otherwise, is that he is constantly accessible – if not in person, then electronically. But the task of changing that assumption requires only an act of will. A leader can designate a certain number of workdays each month as no-meeting days, as Endgame CEO, Nate Fick does. A leader can mark off 60 or 90 minutes each day for time to think. A leader can make it known that he does not text or check his email only intermittently or at certain points in the day. (One has to wonder what leaders who make a point of responding to email within minutes, are otherwise doing with their time.) A leader can declare weekends off-limits for work email, as Wendy Kopp did at Teach for America.
There is a price to be paid for changes like these. Email will go unanswered for hours rather than minutes, subordinates might have to wait 60 minutes to speak to the boss, and meetings might get pushed back a day.
So be it. Scheduling a leader’s time is a zero-sum game, and fundamentally a manager must decide whether reflection and hard analytical work are important enough to warrant perhaps a third of his time.
There is another price for changes like these, namely the usual social levy upon nonconformity. Left unexplained, these changes will lead others to say the leader is arrogant, aloof, unapproachable. But there is a reason to leave the reasons for solitude unexplained. The leader can simply make clear, in as much or as little detail as he sees fit, that doing the organization’s work requires time to think.
And he can bear out that explanation during the times when he is accessible – by providing subordinates with clear comments on their work rather than vague ones, thoughtful answers rather than platitudes, and otherwise performing like a leader who has thought through his guiding principles rather than made them up on the fly.
(This article taken from THE WALL STREET JOURNAL)
RRBC, if we are to continue to grow as we have in years past, I need time away. My job is a HUGE one here, and although I am not complaining, I’d like the time away to regroup so that I can do my job better (just as you all get time away to regroup)…and when I’m doing my job better, when I’m at the top of my game, we all benefit from that.
So, it won’t be today, maybe not even tomorrow, but sometime soon, I will be taking a much-needed rest or mini vacation. It will only be for a week, and, I’ll probably still work during that time, but at least I won’t feel so bad when I turn on my computer to write and ignore the hundreds of email that have popped into my email box within minutes of my waking.
I also hope that during my short time away, that all of my wonderful RRBC family members will continue to do what they would normally do when I’m present – supporting each other, lifting each other up, recruiting, engaging, welcoming, and don’t forget, leaving honest reviews…all in all, just playing nice, so that those standing in my stead won’t have so much to deal with in my absence.
I hope you all have enjoyed this “peace.” I sure did. 😉
Today is our Motivational & Inspirational Friday and we want all of you to help us lift someone up! But, today it’s more than just leaving an inspirational comment. Today, we want you to share with us how you handle a specific situation, because maybe, we’re not handling it as well as we could or even should be.
TODAY’S TOPIC: THE ‘OLDER’ GENERATION
(Before we get started, let me make one thing clear, I’m not speaking of members of the older generation who are suffering from mental illnesses or dementia. They are definitely not apart of this discussion. I’m speaking of the ornery class of the older generation).
Yes, leave it to me to touch on topics that others shy away from. Sorry, folks (not sorry, really), but, today we are going to discuss (honestly, I hope) the older generation. We spend copious amounts of time talking about the younger generation…and most of that conversation always leans in the direction of their failings…their wrongs. Well, you know what, the older generation isn’t all that grand at times, either. Now, I’m going to say that I fall somewhere in between both groups, so my opinion won’t be biased at all.
(That’s the most neutral looking face if I ever did see one!)
In honor of full disclosure, though, I must own up to the fact that I’m closer to 60 than I am 50. I’ll let your minds wander from there.
I have a general saying that goes: “I have zero tolerance for poor behavior. Doesn’t matter if you’re 3 or if you’re 73…I can’t and I won’t deal with it.” I’ve heard people say so many times, “Well, she’s older…she gets a pass” OR “At 75, they don’t know what they’re saying.” I don’t believe that’s true.
My dad’s mom was 90 years old when she passed away and NOT ONCE did I ever see her misbehave or hear her speak in such a way that she might have to be forgiven, for not knowing what she was saying. The same applied to my beloved grandmother who just left me, at the tender age of 89. Because of this, I give no passes for poor behavior when it comes to age. If my dear old grannies, at their ages and wisdom level, could behave as women whose ages and wisdom levels dictated that they should behave, then, again, I will give no passes for poor behavior, or, for not knowing what you’re saying because you’re in your 60’s, your 70’s, or your 80’s.
In my opinion, I feel that some of the older generation feel entitled to misbehave and be rude. I’ve heard some say that “At my age, I just don’t care what comes out of my mouth.” I’ve also heard others say this in regards to those of the older generation. And to that I say, “I hope you care when you’re speaking around me.”
My friend’s dad is 75 years old and she often asks him: “Should I charge this to your head or charge it to your age because if I charge it to your age, you’re gonna get a pass,” she says with a smile. The response she always gets is “charge it to my head.” I know why she gets this response, too. Her dad doesn’t want to be perceived as “old” (for falling asleep with the door wide open, or leaving the keys in the car ignition at night, or forgetting to take care of his personal hygiene) so, he would rather she thinks he just made simple mistakes.
Some of you might not agree with me here and that’s fine. This is my opinion of this situation and I am entitled, just as you are. This is also why this topic is being brought up because I want to know how others feel about the subject.
I am no walk in the park, and although my husband lives that reality but would never say it, my daughters would give you an earful. Knowing how I am now, I can only imagine the horror that I will be as I get older, and in true-Nonnie fashion, I have said to both my daughters, “If mommy EVER behaves that poorly, you do not have to put up with it. Throw me in a home with a nice television for my Lifetime movies, a slew of books, and a nice young aid with good eyes to read them to me, and I’ll be just fine.” And you know what, I mean every word of that from the bottom of my heart. Do I think they’ll oblige me? NO, but I have put it out there that they do not have to put up with my poor behavior (which I know is coming in my older age).
Our club is filled to the brim with those of the older generation and they’re all loved dearly! I’m not going to go so far as to say that they are all always on their best behavior, but, they are still loved. So, whether you are 23 or 93, let’s hear your (honest) thoughts on this subject. I mean, we all share one very important other thing aside from us all bleeding red…we all have our very own opinions about things.
Remember, we want our community to get inspired and feel uplifted by simply reading the comments left by YOU. This is our year of better, and maybe your take on a situation will help someone else to see it more clearly, and also cause them to think and grow from what you have shared. The person who leaves the most inspiring and motivational words of wisdom in the comments section below, wins our SURPRISE OF THE WEEK!
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Everyone goes through storms at times. The rich, the poor, the powerful, the President; doesn’t matter what or who you are, you are not immune to the struggles and trials of life. During this time of storm, what’s needed is support and encouragement from everyone around. Truth be told, some even find it hard to get out of bed and get dressed, and it’s at those times, when motivational words help to lift them right up.
Today is our Motivational & Inspirational Wednesday and we want all of you to help us lift someone up! You never know what your neighbor is going through, so, we want our community to drop by here, get inspired and feel uplifted by simply reading the comments left by YOU. The person who leaves the most inspiring and motivational words of wisdom in the comments section below, wins our SURPRISE OF THE WEEK!
Listen, you never know just how impactful your words are, until a life has changed because of them. – NJ
This year, we (the RAVE REVIEWS BOOK CLUB) are lending great focus to getting better…improvement of our selves, improvement in our lives, and because we are a literary organization, improvement of our writing, has moved to the forefront of our mission. It is time that we ALL stand out. Some of our members already do, but because it is not our goal to leave any of our RRBC family behind, we are going to push one another, until we are all standing on solid (equal) ground. If you’re not there in the upper echelon of the writing club, then those who are, will not rest until you are planted firmly beside them. Let’s become each others keepers. As the great Martin Luther King, Jr. once said: “I cannot be all that I can be, until you are all that you can be,” so on that premise, we won’t rest until each and every member of RRBC, has reached their highest pinnacle of success in all their written work.
This series, “FOCUS ON BETTER,” will empower and enlighten you. They are lessons meant to open your eyes to all the possibilities that await you, once you seriously embark on the journey of becoming, not just an average, mediocre writer, but a phenomenal one, whose words are highly sought after by Connoisseurs of the written word. Yes, those are the folks I want to appraise my books…because they are the ones who know truly good writing when they read it. They can discern junk from jewel and ultimately, their reviews are the ones that matter most to me, as they should to you. This series is also meant to make you an even better book reviewer.
Today, our focus is on WRITING FROM DIFFERENT WORLDS. As a book reviewer, I have come to the conclusion that writers from the US & Canada, write a tad bit differently from those writers in the UK and beyond. You see, the United Kingdom writers tend to write without much punctuation, whereas, if you’re writing it properly in the US, there is a specific place for stop signs and red lights, for green lights that let you continue with the flow of traffic, and even the yellow ones that ask you to pause for a bit. We already know that some of their (UK & even Canada) words are spelled differently than ours (US), as well; organization (organisation), catalog (catalogue), centerpiece (centrepiece), and misbehavior (misbehaviour) are just a few of those words. But, does any of this make their writing incorrect? For a long time, I thought it did, and so I graded accordingly in my reviews of such work.
After a time of reading so much work by many writers from the UK, writers whose work I enjoyed, aside from the variations of country, I came to the conclusion that their writing wasn’t wrong, it was just the way it was done in their country. It was at that time, that I decided to use a different scale for their writing, as opposed to my standard scale (my own) of those writers from the US. I could no longer penalize writing, that for a few variations in spelling, was pretty good reading. As far as the punctuation end of it, I still struggle, as some work that I have read from writers from the UK, never allow you to pause and take a breath before your eyes begin to cross. That’s a huge problem for me and probably will continue to be so. I ask those writers to have a little empathy for those of us who are accustomed to driving on the right side of the road. I’m sure you wouldn’t want us to have a brain-crash, which is customary when we’re given the freedom to just go go go, without any regard to running into the other words in front of us. I mean, run-on sentences are against the law, aren’t they? Maybe that’s just in Nonnie-land….hmmmm.
What I’d like for you all to take from this today, is to give the other side a chance, whether you’re a word-Connoisseur from the US or from the UK. Recognize the differences in our writing that are there because of the side of the ocean we’re from, and not just blatant errors and mistakes that some would be quick to believe…are from a lack of knowledge in the field. Maybe we, in the RRBC, should create a new scale of review to be used for books from the UK, which in all actuality, are well-written, aside from the variations of country that separate us in the area of writing.
Now, I’m not saying that all books, whether from the US or the UK, should be given a pass…just because. Absolutely not! No matter where you’re from, there is no arguing that good writing is still, good writing. I’m merely suggesting that we dig a little deeper, to discern the real junk from the jewels, because no matter where you’re from, THAT should be standard!
We’ll see you next time on FOCUS ON BETTER, for another enlightening topic that can only help you to grow into the best version of you, as a writer.
What are your thoughts on this topic? We’d love to hear them!